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February 22, 2010

30 Chick Flicks in 30 Days

What one guy learned about women while conducting that very experiment

Is it possible for a man to be more understanding of women after watching a marathon of chick flicks? Nick Waters, an Average Joe from Southern Oklahoma who has been married for seven years, would say the answer is a definite yes.

"Love is tender," Waters told Asylum.com after his recently concluded experiment, "30 Chick Flicks in 30 Days: One Guy’s Exploration of Romance Through Movies Loved by Women." "And any real relationship is based on forgiveness, compassion and vulnerability."

Sounds very 1st Corinthians 13-esque, doesn't it? He also says he learned a lot more about the "lost art of romance," and he tells The Toronto Star, "My wife has told me she notices I have changed. I am much better at picking up her body language and she notices an improvement in the way I read her. I have learned what not to do in our marriage from watching these movies."

Check out all of Waters' observations here.


Nick Waters's motives seem well-meaning, but one has to wonder if his goal -- understanding the opposite sex -- is best achieved by these means. The project assumes from the beginning that chick flicks offer an accurate depiction of women's attitudes, relationships, life goals, and so on, when many women I know feel just as alienated by such films as most men reportedly do. Also, what does it say that only 1/3 of the films of Waters's list were made by women? Granted, male filmmakers outnumber female ones by far, so 1/3 may not be that bad. But won't many of these films just perpetuate men's interpretation of 'the female brain'? Waters's goal might be better met by interacting with flesh-and-blood women.

Well, he does have a flesh-and-blood wife, so I assume she wouldn't want him interacting with *too* many other flesh-and-blood women! ;-)

If Nick Waters has learned good things & his wife is pleased then why isn't it valid for some to appreciate these movies? I have my own reasons for liking them.
I live in a monogamous though often joyless marriage of 25 years (various & understandable reasons for this)and having chick flicks available to fill the emotional void in my heart is a huge and encouraging blessing to me. If women do not all feel the same, fine. My "female brain" as you call it,needs the food that comes with laughing at sweet human folly and hoping that true love exists even if not visibly in my life. There is another blessing; it seems to me they show less gratuitous sex than television. I find this all keeps me from looking elsewhere for another relationship so instead I stick to the one God has given me and enjoy what I can from my own husband. Encouraging entertainment!
I do hope those women who feel alienated by these films find enough of the encouraging entertainment they need elsewhere. As for me,these are just make-me-happy-enough movies. I trust by the giggles I hear and the smiles I see in the theater, I am not the only woman who feels this way.