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August 16, 2010Why We Envy Elizabeth Gilbert
Who doesn’t want to bury personal burdens through exotic travel on the company dime?
Sarah Pulliam Bailey
Like most readers, I devoured Eat, Pray, Love pretty quickly, finding it to be eloquently written, eagerly honest, and fairly perceptive of culture, relationships, and of the self.
Through her engaging memoir, Elizabeth Gilbert invites us all to peek into her self-reflective quest after a painful divorce. Don’t we all wish we could replace painful relationships with glamorous travel involving relaxation and reflection? Unfortunately, most of us are not able to pursue such endeavors, so we are relegated to living vicariously through reading Eat, Pray, Love. Better yet, now we can skip the book and head to the theater.
For most of us, self-reinvention involves switching from coffee to green tea, though we are constantly encouraged to change things up and become a better person. On the newsstands, O, the Oprah Magazine offers “The Makeover Issue! 178 inspiring ways to change things up (Oprah did!).” Real Simple wants us to perpetually make our life easier (usually through buying more stuff to organize the other stuff we already own). Perhaps those of us who are drawn to spiritual memoirs secretly hope we’ll find the subtle answer to a fulfilling and satisfying life.
Would Gilbert’s book sell like hotcakes if it were written as a biography? Probably not. Most consumers would be less enthusiastic to pick up a book about a woman who goes through a vague divorce, gorges on pizza in Italy, does some “oms” in India, and meets a male replacement in Indonesia. When choosing a biography to read, most of us look for a hero to emulate, someone whose entire life story is worth telling. Instead, Eat, Pray, Love offers us a way to act fly on the wall for an up-close glimpse at another person's spiritual journey.
Traveling offers the alluring opportunity to self-reinvent, allowing us to leave painful memories behind so we can understand other cultures and simultaneously engage in personal discovery. After reading Eat, Pray, Love, I coincidentally began Bill Bryson’s journey on the Appalachian Trail in A Walk in the Woods, and although they are both traveling memoirs, Bryson purposefully draws conclusions from beyond his own experiences with observations about his surroundings. He brilliantly mixes history and cultural scrutiny with hilariously deadpan anecdotes from his travels. “If a product or enterprise doesn't constantly re-invent itself, it is superseded, cast aside, abandoned without sentiment in favor of something bigger, newer, and alas, nearly always uglier,” he writes.
In contrast, Gilbert’s engagement with the surrounding culture always seems to lead back to herself, from indulging in Italian pizza, to her wandering thoughts during meditation in India, to her altruistic attempt at financing a healer’s shop in Indonesia. Predictably, she is swept off her feet by a Brazilian man for the happy ending. She writes, “I was not rescued by a prince; I was the administrator of my own rescue.” Despite her reassurance, it is hardly convincing.
Gilbert is not the only author who has experienced personal success through personal narrative. Spiritual memoirs seem like quick sellers for Christian publishers, with popular hits from authors like Donald Miller and Anne Lamott, to recent books from Susan Isaacs, Jason Boyett, and Rachel Held Evans. In our interest in others’ spiritual quests, however, perhaps we are losing sight of another valuable genre: the biography. Last year, Chris Armstrong eloquently argued for CT that Christians should regain the lost spiritual discipline of reading biographies.
Of this I am convinced: Biographical narratives have power. They carry the potential to bring deep transformation. But today, we have lost some of our forebears' sense of the power of life stories. I think this began happening at the beginning of the 20th century.
Conveniently, Eric Metaxas’ 500-page biography Bonhoeffer (Thomas Nelson) currently stands in the way of finishing my summer reading list. It sits on my shelf, as if to mock: “You will never finish me.” While Eat, Pray, Love offers a convenient escape from daily realities, Bonhoeffer offers the tale of a radical theologian’s daring (and fatal) quest to resist Nazism. Somehow, the two don’t seem to compare.
Posted by Sarah Pulliam Bailey on August 16, 2010 4:45 PM
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Comments
Great observations, Sarah.
It seems like in our quest for personal stories, we are so consumed with reading and reflecting on our own lives, that we miss what we can learn from reading and reflecting on others' lives.
I strongly believe that good personal essays--or memoirs--take the material of everyday life and connect it to larger meanings. Bringing in historical or broader cultural perspectives, as Bill Bryson does, is one way to do it.
Posted By: Hannah | August 16, 2010 7:08 PM
Thanks, Hannah. I hope I don't appear to diminish memoirs, as I do think they can be valuable. I worry that they tend to replace biographies in our lists of nonfiction books to read.
Posted By: Sarah Pulliam Bailey | August 16, 2010 7:49 PM
Sarah , I loved your post. This summer I read the three books you mentioned: A Walk in the Woods, Eat Pray Love, and the Bonhoeffer bio. I enjoyed all three immensely, but by far the Bonhoeffer bio was the highlight of my summer. It will be at my bedside for some time to come. I got swept up in his life and the times, and by the end felt like I had lost a loved one. I’m still not over it.
Posted By: dana | August 16, 2010 8:06 PM
Dana, good to hear. I'm looking forward to it.
Anna, that is a great question and I hope I didn't push any buttons by my comparison. I've enjoyed Donald Miller, Anne Lamott, etc., so I don't want to diminish those authors. Some memoirs/autobiographies are absolutely fantastic (The Glass Castle, for example, is one I always recommend). Others feel much more self-focused almost by their nature.
Chris Armstrong writes of biographies: "But the dawn of the past century brought the values of efficiency, objectivity, and tough-mindedness to the forefront of American culture. Reading novels and biographies suddenly seemed marginal in a technocratic age of rugged individualism." One of the values I see in biographies is that it generally paints a picture of someone's entire life, while memoirs seem to capture general themes or maybe one time of one's life.
I don't necessarily think one is superior to another, but it seems like the spiritual memoir genre is so much more popular right now than biographies.
Posted By: Sarah Pulliam Bailey | August 16, 2010 9:48 PM
No, no buttons pushed, Sarah. :) Honestly, a memoir was certainly not what I set out to write, but in my case, the subject matter (sex and chastity) sort of drove me to it. I've always thought more in terms of fiction or at least third-person non-fiction, but I got to a point with some of the things I wanted to say about sex, where it seemed like a lot of people would just reject that as being too harsh—easy to prescribe, hard to do. So, in an odd way, the choice of medium was sort of about credibility.
Leaving aside my own book, though, I can see potential pitfalls and strengths for both types of books. With biographies, it seems to me there's a potential pitfall in trying to order a life to fit a particular notion of its narrative arc (an assumption of order/trajectory that some might attack as specious anyway). Or, you can be limited by uneven source material and forced to construct a narratively important part of someone's life from sources that may inadequately convey your subject's humanity or leave significant questions unanswered. Hard to tell a story well when you have to sometimes admit there are gaps and thin spots in it. I've also read "novels" that came across as half-baked memoirs which, for various reasons, the authors didn't feel quite comfortable writing as straight-forward non-fiction (though I can certainly imagine some of the reasons for that).
But when I think about the original quote on biographies you used, it makes me think of how good books sometimes show us how to live, or inspire us to live particular challenges well. Other times, they can serve as a valuable record of certain times, events and communities. Even though it's probably one of her lesser works, and I read it years ago, Kathleen Norris' memoir of her New York years, The Virgin of Bennington, still has a vivid hold on my memory, particularly for its portrait of the New York poetry world in the late-60s, early-70s. Coming it as a then new-to-New-Yorker, it was the first account I'd read of someone leaving the city, and there was something kind of interesting, and ultimately valuable, in that.
Posted By: Anna Broadway | August 16, 2010 10:54 PM
"I got swept up in his life and the times, and by the end felt like I had lost a loved one."
Dana, this is perhaps the highest praise one could have for a biography. Eric Metaxas's book hasn't been on my to-read list, but after this comment from you, I might just need to try it.
Posted By: Katelyn Beaty | August 17, 2010 4:26 PM